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2004 Nov 25 - 19:39 | add new comment | latest article | previous article | next article | permanent link
Mine is a Safe Haven Too
I don't know "who's the boss." I don't even care. We take care of and protect each other. Neither one of us wants to let the other down and we both feel bad afterwards if there have been cross words.

Maybe it doesn't have the fire and excitement that some people want, but it has the things we want. When we close the door we can relax. We can be ourselves, we can make our joint decisions, and there's no big power struggle going on just because one person hasn't been designated head of the household.

It works. I don't want to be afraid of my husband. That would be a total turn off. I don't want him afraid of me either. I want a house full of love and laughter. And that's what I've got.

by a Taken In Hand reader on 2004 Nov 25 - 20:28 | reply to this comment
No power struggle
Yours sounds like what I've always thought of as the ideal marriage, a marriage of true equality. The fact that it doesn't seem to be quite what I want in my own life still occasionally strikes me as rather odd, but there you go. Yours is the kind of marriage Maria speaks of in the epilogue of The Tamer Tamed, by John Fletcher's sequel to The Taming of the Shrew first performed in 1611.

Are you talking about a man, who you are just getting to know, a dozen dates or so, shoving you into a wall because he is angry with you? Or swats at you because you pissed him off?

Or are you talking about rough sex? Foreplay? And you are being 'naughty?' Slammed against the wall in a sexy way? "You'll do what I say, Cara mia," type stuff?